Most women have fantasised about falling in love with prince charming, who will sweep her off her feet and up to cloud nine. Most women believe in Love at first sight. For the rest of us,
we have a best fit policy, where we have a list of criterior or standards that we hope to find in prince charming (hence narrowing down the selection). We are very aware that no man dead or alive can fit perfectly into that set of standards, so we hope for the best, and when we get the closest to it, we jinx it.
What women want? Attention, someone who instead of asking how much is the bill;pays the bill, romantic, thoughtful, patient, makes us laugh, sentimental, emotional, hits it off with your friends and adores you,(of course the are more but...) so why when we get all of these we think its too good to be true, we question it, try to come up with a underlying sinister motives to explain our "good fortune"?
Do we jinx our chances at eternal bliss because we believe that it if seems too good to be true then there is a good chance it is? or rather that, we have lofty criteriors but our expectations are way lower and when actions are above or beyond our expectations its hard to accept it as real. Do we believe unconsciously that we are not worthy of being adored and adorned?
Whether the answer lies in expectations, the lack thereof, self love, low self esteem or just short- selling ourselves, its time we make a realistic list of criteriors, form the expectations we want and convince ourselves of our worth through whatever means necessary so that when it happens to us we are not caught unaware, we will not question and just jinx our chance at happiness.
1 comment:
oh miss simplexity, you are very simplex, are you not? well as you know, love is an oft-misunderstood activity, simple at its core, yet far too complex to ever fully understand. indeed, we're often getting it wrong when we think we're getting it right, and we're often getting it right when we think we're getting it wrong.
the problem is, love does funny things to the head. the brain releases chemicals which make us act silly. as a result we should always approach love with a pinch of salt. enter with caution, exit with memories.
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